tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3263995186849305521.post552450240932139932..comments2023-08-05T03:58:19.497-07:00Comments on The Serpent and the Foxglove: Prompt - Relax, Don't Do it.The ocelothttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08158052946010994691noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3263995186849305521.post-66780587271842641132012-01-14T17:24:43.051-08:002012-01-14T17:24:43.051-08:00"Maybe that's part of it - if I'm not..."Maybe that's part of it - if I'm not being fruitful in my riding/crafting/Craft, then They'll make me worry about my *actual* fruitfulness, lol."<br /><br />THIS. I don't want kids, but when I'm not being fruitful in my writing/acting/crafting/learning about Crafting, the "why aren't you breee-diinnnggg?" demons swoop down and torment me into patriarchal self-loathing, and then of course blame me for Being A Victim.Karlahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01026413585956074747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3263995186849305521.post-69694588114872527602012-01-06T14:48:04.023-08:002012-01-06T14:48:04.023-08:00@ The ocelot
Omg frozen peas... that must be the g...@ The ocelot<br />Omg frozen peas... that must be the go-to item for vasectomies because husband-creature used those too. We spent most of our time playing video games and eating cheesy bacon fries.<br />It has been a great source of relief for us too. I can't take any form of the Pill due to allergies, Depo made me suicidal, and IUDs and other minimally-invasive stuffs are right out as I have Interstitial Cystitis which could be brought out of remission by diddling around in that area. <br />So sad that the docs won't allow Second Husband to make up his mind about his reproductive status. They just don't take people seriously who would rather be aunts and uncles or "get out of my yard!" curmudgeons such as myself.<br />P.S. We never told my mother either.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3263995186849305521.post-67993172696286010842012-01-05T17:20:42.165-08:002012-01-05T17:20:42.165-08:00@ a greenbranch - (nods) Second Husband would get ...@ a greenbranch - (nods) Second Husband would get the snip, if A. he had his own insurance his crazy mom wouldn't see it on and B. he wasn't 21 and unlikely to find a doc who'll snip him at this age. <br /><br />First husband went in for his with much aplomb, for much the same reason. We spent a great NYE 2000 (a day after his snip) watching Bruce Lee movies, stretching my riding boots, eating grilled cheese sammiches, and putting frozen peas on his bits. Neither of us has ever regretted it - in fact, I think it's been a great source of relief.The ocelothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08158052946010994691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3263995186849305521.post-61771153640889304022012-01-05T12:11:32.616-08:002012-01-05T12:11:32.616-08:00My husband got fixed for me. He didn't want me...My husband got fixed for me. He didn't want me to have an invasive surgery because he was afraid for his balls :D<br /><br />./drinks a toastAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3263995186849305521.post-72024267482544595072012-01-04T17:07:26.347-08:002012-01-04T17:07:26.347-08:00@ Deb - I hear you on the auntie thing. I anticipa...@ Deb - I hear you on the auntie thing. I anticipate finding my nephew on my doorstep when he hits the Terrible Teens, with a note that says, "PUT THIS ON YOUR HORSE UNTIL IT'S 18", lol.<br /><br />@ Monsignor - sadly, not an option for me. I've known too many women for whom a tubal made their monthly afflictions *worse*, and though there's no scientific reason for it, my Gyn the Good Doc confirmed that it can and does happen. <br /><br />And lest you think the men in my life are selfish bastards, First Husband got fixed ten years ago because it's easier on men than women. But Second Husband is only 21, and no doc will give a man that age the snip even if he knows he doesn't want kids with anyone. (shrugs) It's a waiting game at this point.The ocelothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08158052946010994691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3263995186849305521.post-84775261924579008312012-01-04T11:58:13.735-08:002012-01-04T11:58:13.735-08:00My girlfriend took the only sensible step if you d...My girlfriend took the only sensible step if you don't want children: She had a tubal ligation. It was fairly simple, and her insurance paid for it. Don't know if that's an option for you, but she's never been happier. No more worrying about it.<br /><br />Cheers.Monsignor Scott Rassbachhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11685549734111626335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3263995186849305521.post-64231875935293898842012-01-04T11:07:46.474-08:002012-01-04T11:07:46.474-08:00I too am child free by choice and part of the godd...I too am child free by choice and part of the goddess religion! Frankly I'm too busy giving birth to too many other things through writing and crafting and Crafting to be an awesome mom. Also I'm selfish and want my time to be my time and I'm okay with that. I'm an awesome auntie and a caring nanny and that's as close as I want to get.<br /><br />Good for you for making choices that are right for *you*! And double good on the pony and margarita time!Deborah Castellanohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16715780448380813436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3263995186849305521.post-3517505832886529042012-01-03T16:11:36.472-08:002012-01-03T16:11:36.472-08:00(nods) Yeah, I know/get what you mean about fruitf...(nods) Yeah, I know/get what you mean about fruitfulness being expressed in other ways. Maybe that's part of it - if I'm not being fruitful in my riding/crafting/Craft, then They'll make me worry about my *actual* fruitfulness, lol.<br /><br />Here's to the irony of fertility-worshipping people who don't want to be fertile themselves! (raises glass to you)The ocelothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08158052946010994691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3263995186849305521.post-31568620358669700912012-01-03T14:53:44.418-08:002012-01-03T14:53:44.418-08:00I understand how you feel. I'm 34 and haven...I understand how you feel. I'm 34 and haven't wanted children since I was in my 20s too. I've had a Uterus of Horror for that length of time. It sucks.<br />I'm sure you've thought of this but I'll suggest it anyway- Even though you follow a fertility religion, there are other ways to be fruitful than having a kid. There's fruitfulness of mind- crafting, writing, heck, even daydreaming. <br />Anyway- I don't think you're a hypocrite at all. I think you're following the path that's right for you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com